A survey shows that “nanny education” makes parent-child communication difficult
Recently, Wang Yifan, a senior high school teacher at WISCO No. 3 Middle School, conducted a questionnaire survey on 50 students in the class. The question was “You go home from school. What is the first sentence parents ask?”
“The answers given by about 80% of the students are:” Not much homework “and” How do you eat at school? ”
Mr. Wang pointed out that this response reflects that parents have generally entered the misunderstanding of “nanny education”.
”The child has been in school for almost a whole day, and the first sentence that parents and children communicate when they return home may be unconscious, but it can reflect which aspect the parents care about most.
Teacher Wang stated the purpose of the questionnaire.
Most students admit: “Parents only care about our studies and lives.
“Some students said that when they came home, their parents always asked lightly,” Are you back? ”
“Then the family members were all busy, feeling lonely and confused.
On the questionnaire, some students rationally wrote their expectations for parents: “Strengthen communication and build a bridge of hearts.
Teacher Wang told reporters that students actually love and depend on their parents. However, for a long time, parents have focused on their children ‘s learning and cooking. They have not really penetrated into the child ‘s heart, so parents have gradually seen in their children ‘s eyes.Become a “nanny”.
”Nanny education should be abandoned.
Teacher Wang pointed out that today, parents are more and more careful about their children’s lives, but their children’s psychological quality is getting worse and worse. There are a lot of psychological problems such as exam anxiety, excessive attention to the public image of the self, and concerns about interpersonal relationships.The reason is that parents rarely get into the inner world of their children.
He suggested that parents, when communicating with their children, may wish to ask questions such as “Did you ask the teacher today”, “Did you discuss problems with your classmates” and so on, in order to evoke the desire of the child to communicate.
In addition, parents may wish to pay more attention and understanding to their children’s preferences in order to find common topics.